MICHELLE BARRATT PSYCHOLOGY

35 Wondall Road

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Qld 4178

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MICHELLE BARRATT PSYCHOLOGY

Suite 37, Level 1 Benson House,

No. 2 Benson Street, TOOWONG,

Qld 4066.

Tel: 0411 731 516

Fax: (07) 3009 0075

 

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Michelle Barratt is a Fellow of the Clinical College at the Australian Psychological Society. 

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COUPLES THERAPY

 

COUPLES THERAPY

 

MAIN TOPICS ON THIS PAGE

 COUPLES OR MARRIAGE COUNSELLING

HOW THINGS USED TO BE

STATE OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP

KEEPING YOUR CONNECTION STRONG

SEX THERAPY AND COUNSELLING

WHY CAN THERAPY SUPPORT YOUR RELATIONSHIP?

HOW CAN A SEX THERAPIST SUPPORT YOU?

The following information on Couples Therapy and Sex Therapy will give you some insight to what therapy is and how it presents. 

Michelle Barratt Psychology aims to provide treatment for anxiety at the highest standard; implementing support and treatment that not only endeavours to support a person feel heard and understood, but a treatment plan that empowers their clients to reverse and work through their relationship concerns in order that they can implement preventative strategies to help protect them in the future.   If you are unsure about what you are dealing with, please don't hesitate to contact us to support you through the next step of either working out what to do or how to proceed with an appointment.

 

COUPLES THERAPY in BRISBANE

The couples level of 'compatibility' and their understanding of their values is assessed, as well as their ability to manage conflict effectively.  A variety of discussions, tools and assessments are used in each of the couples sessions according to the individuals presented set of values.  This is particularly important if the couple are choosing to get married.   

 

Many different types of issues are presented in couples therapy, the most important thing to understand is that couples counselling is carried out from a platform and within a framework of no judgment, understanding and empathy.  It is important to realise that every couples journey is unique and no two journeys are alike.  Every couple's journey have a completely different set of issues and problems to deal with.    Couples therapy is generally sought so that the couples patterns of conflict can be determined, better communication can be learnt and and hopefully that significant other can again become the person you once so loved and adored. 

 

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How Things Used To Be .... 

It is totally understood that falling in love, finding that significant other, can at times feel like it took a whole lifetime to find.  Your significant other was the one person you felt you could trust, depend on and ultimately be 'your' person – you one true love.   Once this happens, it can feel like the best thing you have ever experienced in your life, and is often referred to as one of the most exciting times in your life.

 

Relationships Change ...

However, over time as things really begin to settle into every day living, getting to know the real person through not only the good times, but through the difficult times can feel like, not only has the one you love changed, but your relationship is nothing like what it used to be.  You might not like what you see, and at times you might not feel like you really know this person any more and feel like your world is so small is perhaps impossible to change.

These times in your relationship can be very hard, and at times tiring too. Of course, many couples experience a range of issues and life events, and normally these can shape any one of us to present in ways less desirable - thus leaving some partners feeling:

 

  • Confused

  • Lonely and hurt

  • Unheard and misunderstood

  • Alone

  • Angry

  • Frustrated

  • Uncared for or neglected

  • Experiencing feelings that lead to want to stay away from one another rather than be drawn to one another

  • Intolerant

  • Conflict is adding to the bank of experiences more than the positive ones

  • Feeling like it is better to be alone or apart than be together to share and have fun

  • You can hardly remember feeling loved, supported and an element of warmth

  • If in a sexual relationship, you hardly have sex anymore

  • You just cannot seem to communicate with one another anymore, you can’t open your mouth or do anything without getting it wrong

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  • Changing Relationships  Just One Step At A Time:

  • If you feel like some of the above, Couple counselling can support you in a safe, secure and non-judgmental environment to explore the source of your conflict and work out the patterns of your negative interactions so that you can build a more open and trusting relationship again.

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  • Couple counselling can be the discovery of a new journey for the both of you so that you can tackle the issues that are keeping you from connecting with one another.

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  • More importantly, couple counselling has been proven to help develop and build rather than diminish the building blocks you come into therapy with. Fundamentally, Couple Counselling Therapy can better equip both parties to function more positively and communicate in ways that you can express how you feel without putting up the defences you are used to using to protect yourself.

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  • Most importantly, as just mentioned, couple counselling can teach a couple to adopt more a communication style that is effective for them to problem-solve, develop a deeper insight into how each other is functioning so that problem-solving and making decisions together is a process that fosters connections between the two of you rather than destroy them.

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  • Each issue and or conflict are teased out so that each person feels like they are on the same page, and how to move forward is done in a collaborative process so that understanding each issue for each other is transparent and clear. This type of approach creates and develops a deeper level of empathy and understanding for one another so that learning about one another is exciting again, and thus experiencing love is possible again.

 

Author: Michelle Barratt - Clinical Psychologist, and Clinical Director of Michelle Barratt Psychology, a Brisbane and Redland Bay Psychology Practice - Promoting effective couples counselling. 

 
 

It can feel like it can take a whole lifetime to find that one person you feel you can trust, depend on and support – that one very special person you not only want to be there alongside you, but desire to live your whole life with – the one you truly love and way back then – truly adored.

 

Once upon a time, it felt like the best thing you had every done; being in a relationship with this person. However, over time as things really begin to settle into every day living, a multitude of things start to perhaps eat away at was once there and so precious.

 

Each party in the relationship perhaps begins to discover, experience and see the other person like they have never done before, and sometimes, it can or might feel like you really don’t know this person anymore.

 

More often than not, this begins when the ‘honeymoon’ period is over and you are more likely to want to tear your hair out than have your heart flutter with joy at the sight of your partner. Sometimes during a time of conflict – there just doesn’t seem to be any rational sense to any of what goes on behind closed doors and you at times feel like you just don’t know what to do anymore.

The State of Your Relationship

Of course, many couples experience a range of issues and life events (significant or not), and for some couples they can ride the waves of difficult times, but for some, something changes inside you and nothing is the same anymore. What is most important to remember at this point, is that many couples face difficulties and with commitment, motivation to explore, reflect and the willingness to be open about where your responsibilities lie within the conflict – change and positive experiences are possible.

 

However, if you feel like any of the below (and you feel like you are struggling to see a way forward)

  • Confused

  • Lonely and hurt

  • Unheard and misunderstood

  • Alone

  • Angry

  • Frustrated

  • Uncared for or neglected

  • Experiencing feelings that lead to want to stay away from one another rather than be drawn to one another

  • Intolerant

  • Conflict is adding to the bank of experiences more than the positive ones

  • Feeling like it is better to be alone or apart than be together to share and have fun

  • You can hardly remember feeling loved, supported and an element of warmth

  • If in a sexual relationship, you hardly have sex anymore

  • You just cannot seem to communicate with one another anymore, you can’t open your mouth or do anything without getting it wrong

 

… then Couple Counselling can support you in a safe, secure and non-judgemental environment to explore the source of your conflict and work out the patterns of your negative interactions so that you can build a more open and trusting relationship again.

Author: Michelle Barratt - Clinical Psychologist, and Clinical Director of Michelle Barratt Psychology, a Brisbane and Redland Bay Psychology Practice - Promoting effective couples counselling. 

 
Michelle Barratt Psychology, Strong Connection, Pressures, Sex

​Maintaining a strong connection can be difficult. As we all know life, its chores and it’s pressures erode away time to be intimate, time to communicate, time to bond, time to build up the bank of happy memories.

It’s important to remember that if you are managing a family and running a home, it is like running a small country. However, it is imperative that you find the time to foster and nurture the love you once found so that being together remains special, intimate and a priority to you both.

Author: Michelle Barratt - Clinical Psychologist, and Clinical Director of Michelle Barratt Psychology, a Brisbane and Redland Bay Psychology Practice - Promoting effective couples counselling. 

 

Seeing a sex therapist may sound and initially feel like a very confronting exercise. However couples and individuals expressing concerns and worries, and experiencing sexual issues is not as uncommon as you may think. In fact, many people seek sex therapy or concurrently, couple counselling, and do so for a wide variety of reasons. So, we would like you to know that sourcing and or accessing sex therapy is not actually an uncommon or odd thing to do. In fact it could actually enhance and improve your relationship dramatically.

 

Why Can Sex Therapy Support Your Relationship

Being able to express yourself intimately to your partner plays a very important role in your ability to communicate your love language to one another. Having a healthy and positive sexual relationship has been shown through research to increase your level of relationship satisfaction because it provides an avenue for you to feel connected and valued. Your sexual relationship is not the only part of your love language for and to one another, but does play a critical role in being able to express to one another what words cannot say.

How Can A Sex Therapist Support You?

A sex therapist will approach any topic you share with them sensitively and confidentially. Each issue will be approached with understanding, respect and empathy; thus providing an environment that is safe and completely non-judgemental. A sex therapist will be able to listen and support you on your journey to developing a much deeper insight to the issues or concerns you are experiencing with yourself and your partner. 

 

A sex therapist fully understands that your sexuality plays a central role in the formulation of your identity of yourself and is fundamental in nurturing and maintaining an emotional connection with your partner. Furthermore, the relationship and dynamics set up with your sexuality will have a large impact on the level of ‘relationship’ happiness and consequently your ‘global’ wellbeing.  All these issues will be discussed when you attend sex therapy.  The pace at which you go will also develop at the pace you want to travel.

Author: Michelle Barratt - Clinical Psychologist, and Clinical Director of Michelle Barratt Psychology, a Brisbane based  Clinical Psychology Practice - Promoting the Therapeutic Care and Therapy for your Relationship.